Virgin Territory:
U.S. Women Seek A Second First Time
Hymen Surgery Is on the Rise
And Drawing Criticism;
A Radio Station Giveaway
(Dec. 15, 2005) -- For her 17th wedding
anniversary, Jeanette Yarborough wanted to do something special for her husband.
In addition to planning a hotel getaway for the weekend, Ms. Yarborough paid a
surgeon $5,000 to reattach her hymen, making her appear to be a virgin again.
"It's the ultimate gift for the man who has
everything," says Ms. Yarborough, 40 years old, a medical assistant from San
Antonio. (Ms. Yarborough is a patient of Dr. Hailparn's. Watch Ms.
Yarborough, her husband, another patient and Dr. Hailparn discuss hymenoplasty,
labioplasty and laser vaginal rejuvenation.
Click here to watch video)
Hymenoplasty, a controversial medical procedure
known mostly for its prevalence in the Middle East and Latin America, is
becoming popular in the U.S. Although there are no hard data, the American
Society of Plastic Surgeons says vaginal surgery, including hymenoplasty, is one
of the industry's fastest-growing segments. Gynecologists are marketing
hymenoplasty in magazines, local newspapers and online. They report business is
booming.
Restoring innocence this way has sparked
criticism. Religious groups that value abstinence until marriage say hymen
repair is a deception. Some feminists liken hymenoplasty to female genital
mutilation. In addition, hymen repair, unlike other types of reconstructive
surgery, isn't taught in medical residencies. Some medical associations worry
that surgeons might be improperly trained.
Ridgewood Health and Beauty Center, a spa and cosmetic-surgery center in the New
York City borough of Queens does "Revirgination". To promote the procedure, the center's owner,
Cuban-born Esmeralda Vanegas, has given away hymenoplasties on a
Spanish-language radio station. She also promotes them in her eponymous
magazine, Esmeralda.
Ms. Vanegas isn't a doctor and doesn't perform
the procedure. Instead, she leases space to five plastic surgeons. Luis Palma, a
doctor at Ridgewood, went to medical school in his native Argentina and was a
resident at the Berkshire Medical Center in Pittsfield, Mass., among other
places. Dr. Palma says he performs about five hymen repairs a month at
Ridgewood, almost double the number of five years ago.
Ms. Vanegas says many of her patients risk
disgracing their families if they're not virgins on their wedding night. Many
are Latin American immigrants. "Losing your virginity is like losing a member of
your family," Ms. Vanegas says. "We can make it seem like nothing ever
happened."
Marco Pelosi II, an obstetrician and
gynecologist in Bayonne, N.J., has been performing hymen repair since 1975 but
started marketing the procedure only a year and a half ago. He now performs up
to 10 repairs a month, compared with just two annually a decade ago.
"No one used to talk about it, but that's
changing," Dr. Pelosi says. "Really, it's not like a heart transplant -- it's
like a very simple procedure."
Dr. Pelosi says an increasing number of patients
are trying to "improve their sex lives" by combining hymen repair with an
operation to tighten their vaginas. He says one patient did it to surprise her
husband on a second-honeymoon cruise. Another patient, a 51-year-old Manhattan
attorney and mother of three, had him reattach her hymen and tighten her vaginal
walls in 2003. "I thought it would add that extra sparkle to our marriage," says
the woman.
Named after Hymen, the Greek god of marriage,
the vaginal membrane has since primitive times been a marker of virginity, even
though it can be ruptured by nonsexual activity, such as athletics. At one time,
a bride's intact hymen was considered the only way to be certain about the
paternity of any ensuing children. A small number of traditional cultures still
require brides' hymens to be examined.
Hymen repair has just as long a history, says
June Reinisch, director emeritus at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex,
Gender and Reproduction in Bloomington, Ind. Ms. Reinisch says midwives used to
disguise a broken hymen with a needle and thread, sometimes using membrane
material from goats and other animals.
The modern version of hymenoplasty requires a
local anesthetic and no hospitalization. A doctor uses dissolvable stitches to
reconnect the skin membrane that once partially covered the opening to the
vagina. Intercourse will tear the membrane causing pain and bleeding.
Recovery from hymen surgery takes about six weeks. The
risk of fever and infection is low, says V. Leroy Young, a St. Louis plastic
surgeon who also heads the American Society of Plastic Surgeons' emerging-trends
task force.
On the other hand, Dr. Young says, "it's a
pretty expensive thing to do for one night."
Once reserved for problems such as injuries
related to childbirth, vaginal surgery is now being used for cosmetic purposes,
as well as to avoid social disgrace. Women can even redesign the look of their
private parts. It's part of the overall boom in the plastic-surgery business.
Last year, 9.2 million cosmetic procedures were performed in the U.S., 24% more
than in 2000, according to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons.
Troy Robbin Hailparn, an obstetrician and
gynecologist, advertises vaginal cosmetic surgery on 23 billboards around San
Antonio. Edward Jacobson, a Greenwich, Conn., OB-GYN, offers vaginal-makeover
packages for international patients that include airfare, limousine travel and
hotel accommodation. Dr. Jacobson says he has advertised in Glamour, Harper's
Bazaar and Allure magazines. Last year, David Matlock, an OB-GYN in Los Angeles,
discussed his "Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation" practice on "Dr. 90210," a reality
show on the E! cable network.
The ethics committee of the American College of
Obstetricians and Gynecologists, concerned about the marketing of revirgination,
sent a letter to several cosmetic gynecologists in June 2004 voicing its unease.
The college, which hasn't taken a formal position on the matter, said it worried
that doctors may not be able to fully inform their patients about the procedure
because it doesn't appear in the medical literature.
Thomas G. Stovall, a recent president of the
Society of Gynecologic Surgeons, a top professional body, says "hymen repair is
a totally bogus procedure." In general, he says, surgery marketed to improve
one's sex life rarely works. As for hymen replacement, "most importantly, it
doesn't make you a virgin again."
A 26-year-old Latin American woman who lives in
New York's Queens had a hymen repair in 2001 and says it took almost two months
for her to feel comfortable again. It took even longer for her to enjoy sex.
The married mother of two says she's glad she
had the surgery nonetheless. She says her husband wanted to experience
intercourse with a virgin. "If a woman isn't a virgin when she gets married, a
man can always put her down for that," says the woman, who does part-time
clerical work for Ms. Vanegas's Ridgewood clinic.
Such attitudes irk feminists, who say hymen
repair is a manifestation of bigger social pressures that keep women subservient
to men. "It comes with a whole set of norms of a macho culture," says Silvana
Paternostro, Colombian-born author of "In the Land of God and Man: Confronting
Our Sexual Culture."
Devout Roman Catholics prize virginity because
sex before marriage is a sin. Hymen replacement is "misleading and misguided,"
says Kathleen Raviele, vice president of the Catholic Medical Association in
Needham, Mass., and a gynecologist. "The best thing is to remain chaste until
marriage and then have that genuine experience on your wedding night."
For many Muslims, sexual purity is a way of
maintaining the sanctity of the family. But Islamic law also prohibits lying and
frivolous cosmetic surgery, says Uzma Mazhar, a St. Louis psychotherapist known
for her Web site, CrescentLife.com, which provides Islamic perspectives on
Western issues.
"What people forget is that Islam teaches us to
be honest and fair," Ms. Mazhar says. "A family should think about this before
they present a woman as a virgin when she's not."
Ridgewood's Ms. Vanegas concedes her business is
based on deception. But she says hymen repair is no different than other
cosmetic procedures -- from waxing to Botox injections -- that women use to
impress men.
"I'm a feminist," Ms. Vanegas says, "but there's
a need for this and someone has to provide it."
Dr. Troy Robbin Hailparn is the only female
Board-Certified OB-GYN in the U.S. trained in Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation and
Laser Reduction Labioplasty. She is Medical Director of the Laser Vaginal
Rejuvenation Institute of San Antonio. Visit her website at:
www.cosmeticgyn.net. Her e-mail
address: info@cosmeticgyn.net, or call
210-615-6646 for more information and a free consultation.
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